Understand Life-dominating Problems

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What are Prominent Characteristics of Life-Dominating Problems!

The following information has been adapted and used with permission from the Biblical Recovery support Foundation SELF-CONFRONTATION syllabus, A Manual For In-Depth Discipleship, developed by John C. Broger. This is a recommended resource for anyone wishing to be well-grounded in word-based care for the hurting world.

TEN CHARACTERISTICS of a Problem that is life dominating

1. Continue to practice the sinful attitude, thought or behavior even though I have repeatedly tried to stop (Disregards Romans 6:1-2, 6-7, 11-13; I Corinthians 6:12, 19-20; Galatians 5:16-17)

2. Blame others for my inability to stop (Disregards Ezekiel 18:4, 20; Mark 7:20-23; Romans 14:12, II Corinthians 5:10)

3. Deny that what I am doing is sin (Disregards I Peter 1:16; I John 1:8)

4. Say “I can stop at any time I want to”, convincing myself that I am not enslaved to this sin (Disregards John 8:34; Romans 6:1-2)

5. Repeat the sin even though the harm to me and others is long term (Disregarding Romans 6:16, 21; 14:7-8, 19,15:2; I Corinthians 6:19-20; II Corinthians 5:15; Galatians 5:16-17;James 1:14-15; I Peter 4:3-6)

6. Seek to purposely hide my sin by: (Disregarding Psalm 32:1-5; J John 3:19-21; Ephesians 5:8-17; James 5:16)

—-a. Having separate sets of friends, never letting the other really know about my sinfulness. (Disregarding Matthew 5:13-16; Romans 12:9; I Corinthians 15:33; II Corinthians 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:11)
—-b. Lying to cover my sinfulness (Disregarding Proverbs 6:16-19, 12:22, 28:13; Colossians 3:9-10)
—-c. Hypocritically acting like I am living a Godly life (Disregarding Proverbs 6:12-15; Mark 7:20-23; I I Timothy 3:13; James 3:17; I Peter 2:1-3)
—-d. Act indignant or angry when someone finds inconsistencies in my life that exposes my sin (Disregarding Proverbs 14:8, 27:6a, 29:9; James 1:22-24
—-e. Justify or defend our position (Romans 2:21)
7. Revile or slander the very people who are seeking to restore me to the Lord (Disregarding Psalm 15:1-3; Proverbs 10:16-17, 116:28; Matthew 15:19; Mark 7:20-23; Ephesians 4:1-3;Hebrews 12:14)

8. Continue in this sin knowing that it obscures my testimony of Jesus Christ and is a stumbling block to others. (Disregarding Matthew 5:16; Romans 14:13; I Peter 2:11-12, 24, 3:15-16)

9. Continue in this sin despite the knowledge that God’s word tells me to stop and that God’s provisions are sufficient to release from this bondage. (Disregarding Romans 6:5-7, 12-14, 22; I Corinthians 10:31; Galatians 5:16-17; II Timothy 3:16-17; James 4:17; I John 4:4)

10. Continue in this sin even though realize that my deeds (thoughts, words and actions) do not conform to the Word of God or the principles and character of Christ. (Disregarding II Corinthians 10:5; Galatians 2:20, 5:22-24; Colossians 3:1-11; I Peter 1:14-16; I John 3:2-3)

As you read these 10 characteristics of the hurting person, how does it make you feel to be the one they may attack, turn upon, or stab in the back? I urge you to realize that as the Bible says, they are a “rebellious people” of whom we are not to fear.

Before going any further, READ the entire book of GALATIANS in the Bible. Turn to Galations and read from the first word of the first chapter to the last word of the last chapter.

Who is our warfare with? Who is our greater threat? Who is on our side? Whose are we?

As you work with men, you will see these ten characteristics in operation. Be prepared with a deeper understanding of your role as a course leader. One of the most important things you need to lead a hurting man to restoration is the enabling, empowering gifting from the HOLY SPIRIT!

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