Men look up to other men
Men Need Other Men
They respond to men they respect
Across the span of time, we have seen where it is strong men of character and integrity that have such an impact on other men.
Therefore, we could conclude that it is biblically appropriate and spiritually beneficial to encourage women to counsel women and not men.
Certainly there may be times, such as with Pricilla and Aquila (Acts 18:18-28) where women encourage men in spiritual matters, on an individual basis. This is more of an exception than a rule.
We see it in medicine. We see it in social movements. We see it in church.
Who is the one person boys look up to in High School? Of course, its their coach! Who is the inspiration of any NFL team?
When Martin Luther King stood in Alabama against all odds and cried “I have a dream!” people listened. Men responded.
Men saw his life and heard his message and found hope through his leadership.
Young men are often led to Christ and given inspiration to go on to school to become a minister because a man took time to mentor him.
Leaders are those who make good things happen. One of the best ways they do it is by giving people a reason to believe and to follow.
That’s simple and easy to say, but it takes a lifetime of trying to put into practice.
We see it in men’s mentoring across the spectrum of faith and non-religious men’s groups. Men need the affirmation and respect of other men.
Just as is it commonly an after-abortion recovery leader is someone who has already been there-done that!
Which is why a prerequisite to lead a group is to go through your own recovery/healing process.
This way in the recovery group, you will not be hampered by your own past issues. The same can be said of men.
A man needs to have come through his own pain before leading others. Thus, the prerequisite for men is the same for women. Deal with yourself before you serve others.
Titus 2:7 – In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine [shewing] uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,
1 Timothy 4:12 – Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
1 Peter 3:15 – But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and [be] ready always to [give] an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
1 Timothy 3:1-5 – This [is] a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. (Read More…)
2 Timothy 2:24 – And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all [men], apt to teach, patient,
John 16:33 – These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
1 Peter 5:1-14 – The elders which are among you I exhort, who am also an elder, and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, and also a partaker of the glory that shall be revealed: (Read More…)
Matthew 25:21 – His lord said unto him, Well done, [thou] good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
Matthew 5:14-16 – Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. (Read More…)
James 3:1-18 – My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. (Read More…)
1 Peter 2:21-24 – For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: (Read More…)
Adapted from Lead By Example: 50 Ways Great Leaders Inspire Results (AMACOM 2008) by John Baldoni.
We who lead others should take a lesson from business management. Here are fifteen keys for inspiring results in others.
- Demonstrate character. It forms the foundation of everything a leader says and does.
- Be accountable for your actions and responsible for the actions of others.
- Check your ego at the door (and keep it there).
- Promote resilience. There is no shame in getting knocked down; it’s getting back up that matters.
- Get in the habit of asking questions but do not expect easy answers. Make it safe for people to ask you questions, too.
- Manage around obstacles. The path to fulfilled goals is seldom straight.
- Management is the discipline of detail. Leadership is the art of thinking beyond details in order to make things better.
- Drive innovation by encouraging everyone on the team to think and act creatively. Good ideas can come from anyone at anytime.
- Encourage dissent about issues but promote civility around people.
- Create a winning culture so that people feel confident about themselves and their work.
- Change always happens. Learn to anticipate, embrace, and adapt to it and teach others to do the same.
- Teach others “the how” —then get out of the way and let people do their jobs.
- Honor tradition but seek to do things that benefit people today and for tomorrow.
- Get off the pedestal. Leadership is less about who you are than what you do!
- Lighten up. Take the work (but not yourself) seriously!
For the full article: http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/Leading-by-Example.aspx
In summary, when looking for a male leader of your recovery program for men, look for a humble man, a wise man, a man who has been healed of his past sin of sexual immorality, a man who is sound in the Word of God, a praying man, a man who is not quick to quarrel or judge, a man who weighs his words.
My prayer for you is this, that as you see what the Bible sets forth as a basis for leading by example and see how business echos the same in their management list of things to do to inspire others: that you will pray for the right man to fill your ranks. If you find such a man, put him on your staff. He will be well worth his weight in gold.
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