Do’s and Don’ts


Learn these DO's and DON'Ts!

As you prepare to help a man overcome a wounded heart, keep these factors in front of you.

We as humans so often try to solve problems out of our human nature. Remember, what the mind and will say is right leads to death. We need to listen to HIS HEART!

Take a moment to look up each of the scripture verses referenced. Learn what the Bible says.


1. BLAME OTHERS Don’t fall victim to the blame game.

2. AVOID THE PROBLEM for fear of consequence

3. NEGLECT YOUR GIFT. (I Tim.4:12-16)

4. Call SIN A DISEASE (alcoholism, drug or sexual addiction-a disease)

5. Set UNBIBLICAL AGENDAS for group work (visualization, letters of anger, anger venting, letters to the aborted baby)

6. Continue serving in an UNCOMMITTED MANNER

7. Settle for QUICK FIXES while underlaying problems remain unresolved. (Mal. 2:17; Luke 14:34-35 )

8. Leave without sharing the GOSPEL OF CHRIST (Luke 8:16-18)

9. Talk about course participant behind his back

10.Give your own OPINION rather than God’s Word(Prov.3:5-6)


1. Listen with your HEART not your head (Pro. 18:2,13; 19:20; 21:23)

2. Pray for God’s WILL & PURPOSE for your participant. (I Thes.4:11-13)

3. Serve as a TEAM, never as a lone ranger. (Luke 10:1)

4. Know your BIBLE (study to show yourself approved, rightly dividing the Word of truth) (II Tim. 2:15; II Cor. 4:1-2)

5. MINISTER RECONCILIATION to the lost sheep of the Body of Christ first. (Matt. 10:1-6)

6. COUNT THE COST of following God’s call on your life. (Luke 9:57-62, 14:26-33)

7. Keep your own house in order. (I Tim. 3:1-6, II Tim. 2:19)

8. SANCTIFY THE LORD in your hearts ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.(I Peter 3:15-16)

9. Be MATURE AND GROW in the grace and knowledge of the Lord (Phil. 3:15)

10. Avail yourself of continuing EDUCATION AND TRAINING to keep yourself sharp and qualified in the area of helping, listening and facilitating skills. (I Cor. 9:24)
11. RENEW your inward man daily. (II Cor. 4:16)


1. Always keep your Bible in front of you as the study is conducted.

2. Always encourage your course participant to refer to their own copy of the Bible for answers.

3. Avoid giving personal opinion, but always base your answers with references in Scripture.

4. If you do not know an answer, be honest with your course participant. Refer to this online courseware as a reference when you need a quick topical references.

5. Use this training course as a reference when you prepare for class. Use the online course to guide you along the path of the course if you choose to use Free Me to Live.

Case in point: John MacAuthor was asked by a family to counsel their teenager.

The teenager subsequently committed suicide. They family attempted to sue the pastor, the church and all of its holdings.

The thing that saved the case and spared the church from a huge loss was that Pastor John had used his own Bible and provided the young man his own copy; he had not offered one word of advice or personal opinion. He offered Godly counsel from the Word itself.

Never give opinion. Your role as facilitator is never to “fix” the person but to point them to the solution found in the Word.

Remember, if you feed someone they will be hungry 4 hours later. If however, you teach someone to cook and prepare the food, they will be able to feed themselves for a lifetime.

Likewise, in recovery support, our goal is not to “fix” but to train and equip them for a lifelong healing journey teaching them the principles and precepts that can change the client from oppressed to overcomer, from victim to victor!

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